Happy New Year!

It’s a new year!!!

No, I haven’t posted early. I realise this is a message for January 1 2020 but like me, I’m guessing theres a bunch of people right now putting things off that they should be doing now in anticipation of day 1 of the new year.

The thing is, the first day of the year will feel exactly like today. Your eyes will pop open and in that moment you’ll realise that it is just as hard to start all those things that you want to do. That diet, that book you want to start, that event you want to plan.

I realise now that the only way my 2020 will be different is if the person that wakes up on January 1 is different. I have to be new first. I can make that decision today, I don’t have to wait for a calendar event. There are still 21 days left of this year. Plenty of time to work on the me that I want to embrace this new decade…..

Dream big, Live bigger

“Dont be a dreamer, be a doer!” Shonda Rhimes.

If dreams dont cause you in to action then all they become is your personal entertainment system. They become that thing you go to when you want to escape your reality. A moment where it ‘appears’ that an alternate future is possible.

If you want to ‘feel’ different about your life then keep dreaming. However if you want to actually LIVE a different life, wake up, and DO something!!

I’ve recently noticed just how much of a professional dreamer I have become. My dreams have become my happy place. That space I go to, so as to momentarily escape my reality. The problem is, my dreams have arrested my development. They feel so real that I almost don’t even need to make them happen. I’m in a sense, doing nothing!!

This has to change.

I’ve become frustrated with where I am because I’m not LIVING my purpose.

So…..the question now is how do I take steps towards my intended future. I’m thinking one foot in front of the other….right?


When facing life’s challenges, its like being in a shallow pond. If you lie in it, you’ll be consumed but if you stand the water won’t even reach your knees.

You see, God said that He would never give us more than we could bare, so I’m reminded today not to drown myself in it. This too shall pass. In the midst of the mess, Ephesians 6:11 “Put on the full armour of God so that you will be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil”.

I will stand firm.

To be or not to be successful

Aim for excellence, then success will follow.

I’ve often struggled to picture what success looks like, so it’s been a little difficult to know when I have it. The thing is, if I choose to do everything with excellence, success becomes the by-product. Its like the aroma from a well cooked meal or the sound music makes……inevitable!

When you allow success to be that which comes out of an excellent approach, you dont find yourself chasing after cliche ‘success’ markers. The cars, big houses, jacuzzis in the garage. Yes, these are all nice to haves, but it doesn’t always mean success when you get them.

I look at my life as a whole, a complete circle with no breaks. Mind, Body, Soul and Spirit….. nourished. The choices I make to seek out the best to feed and fuel the whole will invariably lead me to live a successful life. Its encouraging to know that success is by choice, not chance.

It is written

Speak what the word of God says, not how you feel.

For every situation or circumstance, there is a word to overcome.

Isaiah 53:5 “But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities, the chastisement of our peace was upon him, and with his stripes we are healed.

Deuteronomy 15:6 “For the Lord your God will bless you, as he has promised and you will lend to many nations but will borrow from none. You will rule over many nations but none will rule over you.

Psalm 113:9 “He makes the barren women abide in the house as a joyful mother of children. Praise the Lord.

Psalm 147:3 “He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds.

Deuteronomy 31:8 “He will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.”

Isaiah 40:29 “He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak”

Isaiah 54:17 “No weapon that is formed against you will prosper; and every tongue that accuses you in judgement, you will condemn.

1Corinthians 10:13 “No temptation has overtaken you except that which is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bare. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out, so that you can endure it.”

God has it all covered, literally everything you need is in His Word. The fulfillment of our lives has already been written.

Hard Questions

I’ve always felt some how about asking someone when they were going to start having children. More so now that we’ve been going through fertility challenges ourselves.

I was recently having a conversation with some friends at church. They are all currently single but they were saying that when they get married they are going to have kids straight away. They were like, it doesn’t make sense why anyone would wait or why they would want to get to know their partner first before having children.

Its almost like the possibility of infertility didn’t even cross their minds. Now to a point this is a good thing. I pray it’s not something they have to ever deal with but it was amazing that they didnt even consider that this could be going on in the lives of the couples they talk to about having children.

You see, I’ve learnt to tell stories. I’ve had people ask, so no children yet? I usually follow with a yeah I know, we better get it sorted soon? Like its something we haven’t been aching for in years. Brushing it off so that they don’t ask any more questions.

To be honest, I am blessed to have wonderful friends and family that put no pressure and only really speak of it when I raise it. Regardless, it still hangs in the air like a grey cloud ready to blow, when they ask that general question “so…..How are things with you?” It’s a general question but you cant help but wonder if it’s a cover up for what they really want to know…”Whats going on with you guys having children?” Oh how I wish sometimes that I had an answer…..

What seat.

The seat that Jesus occupies in our car of life determines the position He holds.

The boot. Jesus is hidden away. Someone that we store away until things become desperate. If your car is like my boot, you dont even remember half the stuff you have in it. I know that it’s all necessary but not for my every day. When we keep God in the boot, He is not a part of our daily lives.

Back seat. Jesus is in our lives but He has no control over the direction. We look back at Him every now and again through the review mirror. With the radio on, AKA the distractions of life, we rarely hear what He is saying.

Passenger seat. He is someone whom we have relationship with. Someone whom we listen to, maybe trust for directions and counsel but we still have the ultimate control of the wheel.

Drivers seat. I was like, “yes, this is where my Jesus is!”. Hand on the wheel. Full control over my life. But then I was reminded of the many times I’d become one of those back seat drivers. “Why are you making that exit?” “You’re going too fast….too slow!?” “Are you sure this is the best route?”

In Psalm 127:1 AMP it reads ” Unless the Lord builds, they labour in vain who build it Unless the Lord guards the city. The watchman keeps awake in vain. I now realise that if we dont allow God to take His rightful position in our lives, ALL that we do will be in vain.